The Language Of Flowers And How They Help The Grieving Process

February 2016

The Language Of Flowers And How They Help The Grieving Process

Flowers provide symbolism and underlying meanings according to traditions that date back hundreds or even thousands of years and especially since Victorian times.

Flowers are an integral part of some the most significant occasions in our lives.  When selecting flowers for a funeral, many people are unsure if the flowers they choose are appropriate.

A few things to consider are what was your relationship with the deceased, and what were his or her preferences, if any.  The floral arrangement you choose can beautifully and meaningfully tell a story and relay the message of love, respect, devotion, and much more.

At DeBord Snyder Funeral Home & Crematory, we understand the significant role flowers play in funerals and memorial services, and the subtle yet powerful impact they have with their healing properties during the grieving process.   They can provide a “focal point” during services; something beautiful to reflect upon.

We put together a list of most commonly chosen funeral flowers, with their descriptions and symbolic meanings to guide you toward a fitting choice:

1. Lilies

 Calla Lilies are often found in floral arrangements for funerals and other services and events that celebrate death.

The Calla Lily flower is simple yet stunning and possesses a strong aroma.  Pure white with a yellow spike inside, and a long, vibrant green stem – this sophisticated flower really stands out and truly makes a statement.

There’s a significant meaning behind this strongly aromatic blossom – lilies suggest that the soul of the deceased has returned to a peaceful state of innocence.

Christians believe lilies symbolize purity, virginity, and the radiance of the soul.  It’s believed that the Virgin Mary’s tomb was covered in this flower.

Asiatic or Oriental Lilies symbolize eternal life, making them the perfect option at religious services honoring the departed.

Stargazer Lilies are beautiful flowers that symbolize sympathy, which makes them a fitting option for the loved ones who are commemorating their deceased.

2. Snapdragons

The name Snapdragon comes from the flower’s appearance, since when you gently squeeze the flower it resembles a dragon’s head.

The Snapdragon flower represents grace under pressure and inner strength in difficult circumstances.

3. Gerbera Daisy

Gerbera Daisies posses a simple beauty that is timeless.  The flower color ranges from deepest red to warm yellows, creams, white and peach shades.

Purity and strength are two meanings associated with Gerberas, and they are a great floral choice for celebrating someone’s life.  

4. Chrysanthemum

Chrysanthemum Spider Mums – part of the chrysanthemum family, have the largest blooms and come in various colors.  Spider mums have a wealth of meaning associated with them, and the color of the flower can also affect the meaning behind it.

Chrysanthemum Spider Mums can symbolize fidelity, purity and truth, and commonly respect and honor, and signifying an expression of sympathy.  They are very often used in memorials and ceremonies honoring a death and are taken to gravesites to remember the dead.

Chrysanthemum Pom Poms flowers come in green or yellow color and symbolize truth.  They are frequently included in arrangements for funeral services.

5. Roses

Roses are one of the most significant flowers used in funeral arrangements.  They can be mixed with other flowers in casket sprays, standing sprays, or wreaths, mostly of white, pink, purple, red, yellow or orange colors.

White roses are one of the top most commonly used roses for funerals.  They suggest purity, reverence, humility and innocence, and are perfect for expressing condolences, regardless of the relationship.  White roses are also appropriate for the funeral services of children, used alone or mixed with light, pastel-hued flowers.

Pink roses signify love, grace, elegance and admiration, and are commonly used for casket sprays and standing arrangements for women and children.

Red roses are used to express respect, love, and courage, and are usually chosen by people who had an intimate or close relationship with the deceased.  They are also commonly used in casket sprays and stands, especially for men.

Dark crimson roses signify grief and sorrow.

Yellow roses are given by friends of the deceased to represent their strong ties.

Also, if a single rose is included in a bouquet it can signify enduring love for the deceased.

Flowers add a personal touch to the service, and can bring comfort and help with the grieving process.

Your funeral director at DeBord Snyder Funeral Home & Crematory will provide thoughtful and compassionate guidance and support to help you create the most meaningful and appropriate service for your loved one.

Please contact our family-owned, community-based funeral home so we can assist you and your family with all aspects of funeral services in Lancaster, PA.