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Roy Thomas “Tom” Bender

Roy Thomas “Tom” Bender, 61, of Millersville, passed away on Saturday, November 4, 2017 at Hospice & Community Care. He was the loving husband of Wendy Bender, with whom he celebrated 26 years of marriage on June 9, 2017.

Born on July 9, 1956 in Lancaster, PA, Tom was the son of Doris Huss Bender and the late Roy M. Bender.

He attended J.P. McCaskey High School and was the owner of Dantro Associates, where he worked for over 40 years.

Tom enjoyed going to car shows and showing his red 1967 Corvette. He also enjoyed yard work and going to the beach. He was a handyman to his family and anyone in need of help.

In addition to his wife, he is survived by a loving extended family.

Relatives and friends are respectfully invited to attend a memorial service at DeBord Snyder Funeral Home & Crematory, 141 E. Orange Street Lancaster, PA 17602 on Wednesday, November 8, 2017 at 3:00 pm. Friends may greet the family from 2:00 pm until the time of service. In lieu of flowers, contributions in his memory may be made to Hospice and Community Care, 685 Good Drive, P.O. Box 4125, Lancaster, PA 17604-4125.

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  1. Cindy Herr

    November 6, 2017 at 5:10 pm

    We Are So Sad To Here About The Passing Of Our Friend Tom. We have alot of fond memories from over the years. We are praying for the family. God bless you all.

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  2. Brenda

    November 6, 2017 at 5:42 pm

    I’m very sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to his two children Tommy and Jenn and his 4 grandchildren and all his siblings and his wife Wendy. He is now pain free no more suffering.

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  3. Pam

    November 6, 2017 at 6:01 pm

    I grew up with Tom in Lancaster im so sorry to hear about him losing his battle to cancer. I came to know his two kids Tom and Jenn and grandkids and I’m so sorry for their loss. He now has wings and flying high with his grandson Jared. RIP Tom

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  4. Deb Betts

    November 6, 2017 at 6:39 pm

    My heartfelt sympathy goes out to the entire Bender family. Sending prayers to his wife Wendy, mother Doris, two children, Tommy, and Jenn, grandchildren, Elina, Trey, Jada, and Tayler, and his siblings, Carolyn, Cindy, Debbie, Diana, Roy, Bonnie, and Karen to help you all through this difficult time.
    Tom was a good person and a hard worker. He was handy, and willing to offer help when ever someone needed it. I had the pleasure of growing up with the Bender family and then Tom married my cousin Brenda and was part our family for many years.
    Rest in Peace Tom.

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  5. Ron Crum

    November 6, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    I’ll miss you. You were my brother!!! Still R

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  6. Bill and Mary Ross

    November 7, 2017 at 7:52 am

    Dearest Wendy, our deepest sympathy…we loved Tom. He was such a good man, a good businessman, and he loved you so much! You and your family will be in our prayers. We pray for peace. Tom’s love for you will never die. It is eternal. Much love, Bill and Mary Ross

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  7. Pam

    November 7, 2017 at 8:28 am

    I knew Tommy growing up in Lancaster we use to run around together. My deepest condolences go out to his children Tommy and Jenny and his grandchildren. May he RIP He is now pain free.

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  8. Alice

    November 7, 2017 at 8:49 am

    I am so sorry the loss of your dad Jenn and Tommy. May the Lord guide you through this difficult time. Prayers are with you and the family.

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  9. Larry Warshavsky

    November 7, 2017 at 9:58 am

    Wendy,

    I cannot put into words how sorry I am. He will be missed.

    Larry Warshavsky Hollymatic

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    • Wendy

      November 7, 2017 at 9:11 pm

      Thank you so much Larry

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  10. Lynn Prather

    November 7, 2017 at 10:13 am

    Wendy,

    I am so sorry to hear about Tom. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Hugs!

    Lynn Prather, Hollymatic

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  11. Kim

    November 7, 2017 at 10:42 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss Jenn & Tommy. Knowing he is now pain free will hopefully bring you peace. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

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  12. Linda (Stetter) McComsey

    November 7, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. Please accept my deepest sympathy. I went to school with Tom and my family (The Stetter family) lived on Poplar Street in Lancaster and were friends with Tom and his family.

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  13. David Patterson

    November 7, 2017 at 7:30 pm

    I want to thank you both Tom and Wendy for allowing me to visit Molly and Maggie when I was at the CAO. This was very healing when my sister pass away in 2011. Thank you for sharing Maggie’s photo to paint. Over the years, Tom would walk Maggie and Molly when everyone was out at the CAO on breaks at 10 and 3. I am sorry for your lost. You are both in my prayers. Peace to you

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    • Wendy

      November 10, 2017 at 10:21 pm

      Thank you so much! Do you not work there any more

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  14. Nelson Burkholder (Bur-Pak)

    November 7, 2017 at 9:24 pm

    May God bless you and may His presence be with you as you pass through this time of sorrow

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  15. Brenda Dearolf

    November 8, 2017 at 9:27 am

    Wendy and family!
    I am so sorry about your loss of Tom! You are in my thoughts and prayers! He was a real fighter thru all this! I am here if and whenever you need someone to talk too!

    Love, Brenda

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    • Wendy

      November 10, 2017 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you! So very hard!

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  16. Joey and Lisa

    November 8, 2017 at 2:31 pm

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you! If you need anything Wendy…please call us!

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    • Wendy

      November 10, 2017 at 10:17 pm

      Thank you guys! I will call.

      Reply
  17. Joseph Gargano

    November 8, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Our prayers go out to the Bender Family. May his memory be eternal.

    Sincerely, The Gargano Family

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  18. Byrne and Jeff

    November 9, 2017 at 4:57 am

    Wendy we are so sorry for your loss you are in our thoughts and prayers.

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  19. Leann Deciantis

    November 9, 2017 at 7:16 am

    Caroline and family sorry for your loss

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  20. Mike Herr

    November 15, 2017 at 9:30 am

    Deeply sorry for your loss Wendy.

    Tom was a great friend for many years.

    Reply

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